I was working with a client who loves to read in bed. She had her current reads on the bedside table. On the floor on the other side of the bed was a 4’ row of books lined up that she was interested in reading. I urged her to move the books to a bookshelf in her office that she could designate as the holding place for books she really wants to read. She was willing and we got to work.
As I was moving the books I noticed the titles. She had a whole series of books by one author who writes about vampires and death. It seemed like every book I looked at had death and dying in the title. That alarmed me because not only is it a good idea to limit the number of books in a bedroom, it is also a good idea to make sure the content is peaceful and pleasant. When you sleep your subconscious has access to the content of books. I could only imagine what my client’s subconscious was doing with all those death books.
In another situation I was working with a woman who was a physician and was married to a physician. Guess what I found in their bedside tables? Medical journals! How romantic! Work and romance really do not go together! And, she and her husband were both working right up until they closed their eyes at night! Sleeping with them in the room kept both of them focused on medicine and not on each other. It’s quite likely that their minds were also working on medical dilemmas through the night. I suggested that if she wanted more intimacy with her husband as well as a more restful sleep, the journals should be banned from the bedroom. She was thrilled to have permission to remove them. She later reported that her husband was also VERY happy with the arrangement.
So, if you must have some books in the bedroom, check their content. Make all reading materials a gentle read. And, avoid books about war, work or violence in any form. Spiritual books and romance novels are great for the bedroom! Sorry guys! I know those are probably NOT your first choice for reading, but you really will like the results!