Buying a House: Feeling Matters

Scanned Image 102340035As I walked up my front walk today I took a trip down memory lane to the days when we first looked at the house while house hunting. I remembered how I loved the feel of walking up that front walk, the comfort I felt in the landscape. Everything felt solid and right. That feeling combined with a nice floor plan, a price we could work with, and pine trees in the back yard led to purchasing the home.

My mind then flitted back to the first home Bob and I purchased together, a little brick ranch house. I knew it was the right house for us as soon as we walked in the front door, before we’d even looked around or asked a single question. The house felt solid, well kept and loved. It felt like a good place to live. And, it was. 

We bought our second house the same way. I walked in and it felt right. I knew I was supposed to live there. My energy resonated with the energy of the house. For nine years that was just the right place for us to live.

I’ve worked with a number of clients who have shared with me that they hate their house, or that living in their house has always been a struggle because certain aspects of it were just not right. When I think about how much pleasure I get from being in a home that I love, one that feels right for us at this time in our life, I can only imagine what it’s like to wake up every day in a house that feels like the wrong place to live. 

Feng shui teaches that everything is connected. Our houses, therefore, are comparable to an outer skin, an extension of who we are. If you love your house, if it feels right, it’s comparable to wearing clothes that fit well. If your house doesn’t feel good, if you’d rather be living somewhere else, it’s as though you are wearing uncomfortable clothes that bind and pinch or someone else’s clothes. It’s impossible to feel settled, grounded, and be your best self when you are living in a place that doesn’t feel good and work well for you. Life in the wrong house is an on-going challenge that will distract you from other important aspects of your life.

How your house feels matters. It determines the quality of life you are likely to have there.  Choose carefully. Choose wisely. It’s worth the wait to find a home that feels right!