I did two marathon clearings (4 hours each) with a client. In those sessions we tackled a home
office and a guest room that had become dump spots for my client and her daughter. It was like doing an excavation! While neither room was completely clutter-free and organized at the end of each session, we had made significant progress in both rooms. The floors were once again visible, bags and boxes of both trash and donation items had been hauled out of those rooms, and a general order had been established. And, we had a plan for how to proceed with additional clearing.
When we finished the second 4 hour clearing in the guest room my client remarked, “Every room in my house is a wreck.” I was taken aback! I was feeling pleased at how much we’d gotten done in two VERY cluttered areas. Despite all our efforts and progress, my client was not focused on our successes. Instead, she was only seeing all that was left to be done. How far do you think she’ll get with the remaining work with that focus?
There are many areas of your life where you have no control — the traffic, the weather, the surprise health crisises that affect you and family members, etc. But, you can choose your focus in any situation. You can choose to see only the challenges and obstacles in your way. Or, you can choose to see each situation as through a positive lens, looking for the good, the progress, the lessons, and the benefits. The perspective you choose, positive or negative, directly affects your ability to engage in action.
A negative orientation will not only attract more challenges into your life, but it also engenders feelings of discouragement, hopelessness, and frustration. Those negative feelings block motivation and action. A positive orientation creates positive energy and feelings of hope, anticipation and even excitement. Those positive feelings provide the motivation to keep engaging in action to a completion point.
Notice your focus. Notice your ability to be productive. If you’re stuck in negative thoughts and feelings, unable to engage in right and necessary actions, notice it, don’t judge it. Then shift to what’s possible (with or without support), your successes and abilities. Your positive orientation provides the fuel to engage in action. You get to choose — a positive focus or a negative focus. Choose positive for greater productivity and success.
If you find yourself stuck in negative thoughts and feelings and can’t shift to the positive, consider getting support to get unstuck. Therapy and coaching are two forms of support that can make movement possible, from a negative orientation to a positive way of operating in the world. In coaching you have the opportunity to create awareness about what’s keeping you stuck and generate strategies for moving forward with more awareness, optimism and hope. Email me to schedule a 20 minute FREE consultation to explore how coaching could help you get unstuck and on a positive path.