This week while coaching a client with ADHD I noticed that she kept saying that she was “freaking out” about holiday preparations and getting everything done. In conversations with others she’d tell them the same thing. “Freaking out” is pretty strong language, and its effect on my client was to keep her in a heightened state of arousal.
People with ADD have under-stimulated pre-frontal cortexes which leave them with executive function deficits like difficulty with time management, planning, organizing, initiating action and completing tasks. They therefore unconsciously seek stimulation in order to kick their pre-frontal cortexes into action. In my client’s case she was using the stimulation of emotional language, “freaking out,” to motivate her to take action on important tasks associated with holiday preparations.
Using dramatic words was working for my client. She was able to get important tasks done. However, they also kept her feeling out of control, out of awareness of the progress she was making, and unable to pause to assess what she’d accomplished and what was left to be done.
Also, words are energy. As such they attract more of the same. Being “freaked out” is likely to attract circumstances about which to be freaked out. In my client’s case she was staying motivated by the stimulation of the fear that “freaked out” was generating, but was unable to attract what she really wants — to feel in control and confident that she will create a positive holiday experience.
What language do you unconsciously use to stimulate yourself into action? Could it be attracting circumstances you don’t want? What language would motivate you and attract more of what you do want?
Watch your language. It could be determining your experience and your destiny!