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ADHD Coaching Benefits Those Ready for Change

As I reflect on the progress of my ADHD coaching clients, both individual and group clients, the main factors that affected their progress were a compelling desire for life to be better, and their readiness for change. Those who have been most successful really were “done” with bumping along in constant stress and environmental chaos by themselves. They committed to a coaching relationship for support to get to a better place. Their commitment to making changes to improve their lives and their spaces made them willing to do the uncomfortable work of self-examination and doing things differently than what their ADHD brain dictated.

Change is hard. Habits are hardwired into the brain. Changing habits that don’t serve you requires creating new neural pathways. Those pathways are formed by doing new behaviors over and over again. Repetition is boring to the ADHD brain, and often avoided. Keeping a new behavior in awareness is also hard for the ADHD brain. So, what does it take for a person with ADHD to make changes necessary to manage their ADHD symptoms?

People with ADHD are motivated by strong emotions. When they reach a point where they feel extremely tired, discouraged, and stuck in stress and misery, that extreme discomfort motivates a strong desire for change. Those with that compelling desire benefit most of coaching. It keeps them stepping out of their comfort zone and open to learning about their ADHD. It helps them move past their shame, anxiety and resistance to look at how their ADHD shows up to cause them problems, and helps them access their creativity to explore new ways of doing things.

ADHD coaching is a learning/action process that can result in positive changes in self-awareness, life management, and relationships. It only benefits those with a compelling desire for life to be better, and a willingness to change habits and behaviors that cause problems.

Are you ready for life to be different? How strong is that desire? If you are ready for long-lasting positive change, schedule a FREE 30 minute Back on Track sample phone coaching consultation now.

ADHD coaching can open new doors of awareness and lead you to life-altering changes when you are ready. 

Put Things Away, Prevent Clutter

Clutter is created in many ways. One of the most common is for people to just drop things instead of taking the time to put them away. People with ADHD in particular tend to move through their lives with such a sense of urgency that they often drop things because their ADHD brain convinces them that there is something more interesting and important to attend to than putting things away.

In the ADHD Group Coaching to Clear Clutter series I am currently running, participants are developing new awareness about clutter, how it happens, and how to get clutter clearing done. They have learned that their ADHD typically results in self-awareness challenges, one of which is that they often aren’t aware of how they create clutter.

Each week participants tackle a clutter clearing project and come to group to share their experience, their learning, their successes and challenges. This past week one participant spoke about the process of unpacking his vehicle after a camping trip. Because in group he has been urged to observe himself and his habits, he was able to watch himself reflexively start to drop items without taking the time to put things away. When he was about to put firewood down where it didn’t belong because it was expedient to do so, he caught himself. His new commitment to

A place for everything and everything in its place.

A place for everything and everything in its place.

prevent clutter and his desire to not destroy the good work he had already done, caused him to pause and think about what he was about to do. He told himself, “The wood pile is within easy reach. If I drop this here, I will be creating clutter.” He then took the wood to the woodpile.

After processing that client’s experience, the group came up with a new reminder to help them prevent clutter in the future: “If I drop something, it becomes clutter. If I take just a few more steps and a few more seconds, it will be put away and I can prevent clutter.”

Watch how you create your clutter. When you are tempted to just drop something out of place, remember, you have a choice: create clutter or prevent clutter.

ADHD Self-Awareness Challenge and Clutter Creation

One way that ADHD shows up is in deficits in self-awareness. In other words, people

Hanging up clothes at the end of every day prevents clutter.

Hanging up clothes at the end of every day prevents clutter.

with ADHD move through life, but can’t clearly see the effects of their behaviors and decisions.

I first became aware of this ADHD challenge when I was helping a client clear clutter in her classroom. As I worked my way around the room creating order, she was working her way around creating new clutter. When I paused and saw what was going on, I pointed it out to her. She looked around and was totally baffled to see what she’d done. She was totally unaware that as she worked she was creating more clutter. Very often when I ask ADHD clients how their space got to be so cluttered they honestly answer, “I don’t know.”

When a person has good self-awareness, they are able to observe their behavior as they move through life. People with ADHD have busy brains, so much going on in their heads that paying attention to their behavior and how it’s affecting their lives and the lives of others doesn’t make it onto their radar very well.

In ADHD coaching, I partner with clients to help them learn how to be more self-aware. Together we look at situations and challenge areas and create awareness of habits and behaviors that affect outcomes. With practice over time, made possible by weekly coaching sessions, clients become more adept at observing themselves and what they are doing so they can better avoid problems and make progress to achieve their goals.

Got ADHD? Got clutter? A good first step is to create awareness of what you are doing that creates clutter. Watch yourself as you move through your day. What are you doing that creates clutter? Not putting things away immediately? Not cleaning up after yourself? Not hanging up your clothes? What are you thinking when you decide not to put things away immediately?

What are you doing that prevents clutter?  Are you sorting mail every day over your recycling bin to get rid of as much unnecessary paper as possible? Are you taking a few extra seconds every evening to hang up clothes you wore that day? With awareness of how you create clutter you can then plan strategies to prevent clutter.

If you find you can’t create awareness on your own or make necessary changes to prevent and clear clutter, email me to schedule a free 30 minute consultation to learn more about how ADHD coaching can help you address your clutter challenges.