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ADHD Coaching Benefits Those Ready for Change

As I reflect on the progress of my ADHD coaching clients, both individual and group clients, the main factors that affected their progress were a compelling desire for life to be better, and their readiness for change. Those who have been most successful really were “done” with bumping along in constant stress and environmental chaos by themselves. They committed to a coaching relationship for support to get to a better place. Their commitment to making changes to improve their lives and their spaces made them willing to do the uncomfortable work of self-examination and doing things differently than what their ADHD brain dictated.

Change is hard. Habits are hardwired into the brain. Changing habits that don’t serve you requires creating new neural pathways. Those pathways are formed by doing new behaviors over and over again. Repetition is boring to the ADHD brain, and often avoided. Keeping a new behavior in awareness is also hard for the ADHD brain. So, what does it take for a person with ADHD to make changes necessary to manage their ADHD symptoms?

People with ADHD are motivated by strong emotions. When they reach a point where they feel extremely tired, discouraged, and stuck in stress and misery, that extreme discomfort motivates a strong desire for change. Those with that compelling desire benefit most of coaching. It keeps them stepping out of their comfort zone and open to learning about their ADHD. It helps them move past their shame, anxiety and resistance to look at how their ADHD shows up to cause them problems, and helps them access their creativity to explore new ways of doing things.

ADHD coaching is a learning/action process that can result in positive changes in self-awareness, life management, and relationships. It only benefits those with a compelling desire for life to be better, and a willingness to change habits and behaviors that cause problems.

Are you ready for life to be different? How strong is that desire? If you are ready for long-lasting positive change, schedule a FREE 30 minute Back on Track sample phone coaching consultation now.

ADHD coaching can open new doors of awareness and lead you to life-altering changes when you are ready. 

A Compelling Desire vs. Clutter Clearing Tips

Painting by Nancy LeBlancI write a clutter clearing tip per day on The 12 Month Clutter Clearing Community website (clutterclearingcommunity.com). Each day I hope that what I write will spur those who view it into action. It’s like dropping breadcrumbs, hoping to lead people to a treasure! I have no way of knowing whether those tips make a difference or not.

When I think about my clients and those who have managed to turn their cluttered lives around, it wasn’t a tip or even a number of tips that made the difference. Tips can give you a new way to tackle an on-going clutter or organizing challenge, but they don’t motivate you to live clutter-free. What made the biggest difference in the lives of my clients was having a compelling desire, wanting something so badly that they commited to doing whatever it took to get it. The desire provides the motivation to push through the stuck points, get help if necessary, and do those daily behaviors that keep clutter at bay.

What is a compelling desire? Here are some examples from clients who have made significant strides with clutter clearing:

wanting to move to the mountains to raise alpacas,
wanting to go from painting hobbyist to making a living as an in-demand painter,
wanting to change careers from a totally consuming job to one more aligned with current passions,
wanting to live a proactive life instead of a reactive, crisis driven life,
wanting guilt-free down time
wanting to live debt-free.

If you’re reading this, you want something. Are you looking for a quick fix (tip mentality) or do you want something bigger? Remember, a compelling desire coupled with commitment trumps tips every day!

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“Author, Organizing Expert and Feng Shui Practitioner Debbie Bowie, is a leading authority on clutter clearing to attract more of what you want in your life. If you’re ready to finally clear the clutter from your life and move your life forward, get your FREE TIP SHEET, “Feng Shui Tips for Instant Success” at http://www.clutterclearingcommunity.com.