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Put Things Away, Prevent Clutter

Clutter is created in many ways. One of the most common is for people to just drop things instead of taking the time to put them away. People with ADHD in particular tend to move through their lives with such a sense of urgency that they often drop things because their ADHD brain convinces them that there is something more interesting and important to attend to than putting things away.

In the ADHD Group Coaching to Clear Clutter series I am currently running, participants are developing new awareness about clutter, how it happens, and how to get clutter clearing done. They have learned that their ADHD typically results in self-awareness challenges, one of which is that they often aren’t aware of how they create clutter.

Each week participants tackle a clutter clearing project and come to group to share their experience, their learning, their successes and challenges. This past week one participant spoke about the process of unpacking his vehicle after a camping trip. Because in group he has been urged to observe himself and his habits, he was able to watch himself reflexively start to drop items without taking the time to put things away. When he was about to put firewood down where it didn’t belong because it was expedient to do so, he caught himself. His new commitment to

A place for everything and everything in its place.

A place for everything and everything in its place.

prevent clutter and his desire to not destroy the good work he had already done, caused him to pause and think about what he was about to do. He told himself, “The wood pile is within easy reach. If I drop this here, I will be creating clutter.” He then took the wood to the woodpile.

After processing that client’s experience, the group came up with a new reminder to help them prevent clutter in the future: “If I drop something, it becomes clutter. If I take just a few more steps and a few more seconds, it will be put away and I can prevent clutter.”

Watch how you create your clutter. When you are tempted to just drop something out of place, remember, you have a choice: create clutter or prevent clutter.

Procrastination’s Cure: Awareness & Support

Are you dragging your feet about getting a task done? What’s the barrier to forward movement?

What blocks your from taking action?

A few years ago I was dragging my feet about taking action to begin the legwork to shift my business from a hands-on organizing/feng shui model to a coaching/writing model with hands-on organizing and feng shui as components of coaching and writing. I was committed to the shift, but could not make myself take steps to move forward to put my vision into reality. My plan was to offer my services as a coach who can move clients from stuck to moving and then thriving. And, there I was. Stuck!

By chance while on a road trip with my husband I told him that I was considering experimenting with group coaching as an alternative way to offer coaching to people who can’t afford one on one coaching. My husband is a therapist, so I asked him to describe how he ran group counseling groups, thinking that perhaps that information could help me develop a group coaching process. I was delighted to discover that there is a distinct possibility that the group counseling process could work for group coaching.

As we talked, I noticed that my energy level around jumping into action to integrate coaching in my business skyrocketed. It was such fun to explore the possibilities of group coaching, to consider doing more than one on one coaching. With that conversation the prospect of integrating coaching into my business shifted from a scary, daunting task to a creative opportunity.

I had been stuck because something about the task at hand wasn’t motivating. The thought of doing just one on one coaching as the main activity in my business did not float my boat. I was trying to get started on creating something that wasn’t quite the right fit for me, but it wasn’t until I reached out for support from Bob that I gained clarity about that. By making a connection with Bob, a knowledgeable resource, and exploring a new possibility with him, I was able to expand my vision for my business. When I did that my creative juices kicked in, and I was off and running.

My learning from this experience? Sometimes the task I’m trying to make myself do with no success is not the right task to be doing. When I get stuck reaching out for information and support can get me going again. I learned that I am more likely to take action if I can find a way to view a task as a creative challenge. When the work I need to do meets some of my basic needs, like having fun and being creative, I am more likely to engage in it.

When you’re stuck, stop and see if you can determine the barrier to action. What is blocking forward movement? Be curious about your inaction. The awareness that may emerge could shift your energy from stuck to moving.