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Clear Clutter for a Merry Christmas!

A few days before Christmas is probably not the time to have physical clutter clearing as your focus, unless you are clearing away wrapping supplies or leftovers from the fridge. However, it is a great time to clear mental and emotional clutter.

Negative self-talk is mental clutter. Look for the negative thoughts that can arise after a month of too much to do and not enough time to do it. Thoughts like, “I’m exhausted!” Or, “I should have gotten xyz done.” Or, “There is still so much to do, most of which I don’t want to do.”

When you notice those negative thoughts, tell yourself, “Thank you for sharing. You are letting me know it’s time for some self-care. It’s time to stop pushing and pause to think about my blessings, what I have accomplished, how much I am loved, and what fills my heart.”

Emotional clutter sounds like this, “I’m so sad because Christmases are not like they once were.” Or, “I feel so lonely because I have no family to be with at Christmas.” Or, “I’m afraid people won’t like my gifts or appreciate all the effort I put forth to make this a great Christmas.” You get what you focus on. It’s normal to feel sadness at this time of year because Christmases aren’t like they once were. Some family members are no longer with us. Children grow up and celebrate Christmas with their own families. Some people will not be appreciative of your efforts.

However, you can choose whether to stay in a negative emotional spin or instead look for the good in every encounter and notice what you love about the season (music, colorful lights, beautiful decorations, special foods, connecting with special people).

Even if the holidays are busy, tiring days with too much to do, clearing mental and emotional clutter as it comes up will free you to be present to the joys and wonder of this special time of year. Look for the good! It’s there waiting for you to hold in your heart.

Merry Christmas!

Clear Clutter to Create Mental Space

Today I woke up at 4:00 a.m. I had a fleeting thought about my business and my brainclock-157400_640 (1) was off and running. Not a chance that I would be able to fall asleep again! My work plate is quite heavy at the moment, and I was feeling stressed about getting everything done. So, I took my racing brain into my office to put it to good use.

I first cleared my desk and computer screen of clutter. Part of the reason I was feeling stressed was that in the busyness of the week my desk had gotten cluttered. I couldn’t clearly see all of the tasks I needed to do. After clearing the clutter I organized what was left and made my action items clearly visible. I not only felt more grounded, but I created both physical and mental space to be able formulate a game plan for getting everything done. I began to relax and feel more in control.

The best benefit of my early morning clearing was that the introduction for a free ADHD tele-class that I’ll be doing this month just fell into my head. Clearing my mental and physical clutter made space for ideas for the tele-class to flow.

Insomnia isn’t all bad if well spent!

Clutter Blocks the Rapture of Being Alive

“People say that what we’re all seeking is a meaning for life. I don’t think that’s what we’re really seeking. I think that what we’re seeking is an experience of being alive. . . so that we actually feel the rapture of being alive.”

Joseph Campbell

“The experience of being alive . . .  so that we actually feel the rapture of being alive.” Those words really struck me as I was reflecting on my recent trip North to make a turkey dinner for my disabled brother, Mark.

Visiting Mark is always bittersweet. Several brain injuries have left him in need of 24 IMG_2637hour care. Earlier this year he suffered a major cognitive and physical decline following a bout with shingles and receiving the shingles vaccine. My heart hurts as I watch my sweet, strong, vibrant brother fade away into an invalid who has little control over the course of his life.

This trip, instead of putting my head down and jumping head first into the pain of the continuing loss of Mark, I said yes to Diane,  when she suggested that we take the train into New York City to see a Broadway show. For the hours that I rode the
IMG_3332train into the city, hiked up Broadway past lighted Christmas trees and all the sights of the busy city, and watched my first Broadway show, I was able to put the painful emotional and mental clutter of my life aside and be in the rapture of the having new fun experiences.

I work with people who have volumes of painful, paralyzing, physical clutter. My clutter, by comparison, is mental and emotional, and has limited my ability to let go and have fun. Going into New York City was an opportunity to separate myself from the clutter of fearful, limiting beliefs and sad feelings to just enjoy the pleasure of being IMG_3325alive and having new experiences. I left New York City wanting more. Not necessarily more Broadway shows, though that would be wonderful, but more relief from the clutter that blocks me from allowing myself new experiences and moments of joy.

Clutter, whether physical, mental or emotional, blocks you from experiencing the rapture of being alive. What can you do today to release those blocks? My friend, Diane, offered me support, encouragement, and a way to let go of my blocks for a wonderful evening of fun. What support do you need to to move forward to clear your clutter?

Internal Clutter: Awareness Before Clearing

Change Internal Clutter!

Internal clutter. We all have it. It shows up as negative self-talk, limiting beliefs, faulty thinking and limiting perspectives. Most of us are unconscious about the variety of clutter that runs the show in our brains.

You’re probably noticing that I’m including myself when I talk about mental clutter. The first therapist I worked with told me that I had a black cloud over my head. She was referring to the array of negative beliefs about life and what I could expect from it that I had laid out before her.

Upon reflection I was able to identify that I had inherited many of those beliefs from my father who has always been a glass half empty kind of guy. I remember him referring to “the malevolent universe” when talking about the state of our world. Little did I know that being exposed to that type of perspective and other pessimistic beliefs colored my view of our world as a scary, dark, unpredictable place. When my therapist shared her observation with me, she made me aware that toxic internal clutter was blocking me from being able to trust and experience feelings of joy. She opened a door for healing and developing a new perspective.

When I can’t seem to get traction in my life, when I get caught up in self-doubt, self-criticism and feeling uncertain and shaky about aspects of my life, I remind myself that I need to check in with the voices in my head. I examine my thoughts, the beliefs that are surfacing, my current perspectives regarding my purpose, my performance, and my journey. Invariably I discover that I’ve slipped into old ways of thinking. Bringing those monsters into awareness is essential before I can change them and make my way back to being fully connected with my best self.

If you find yourself struggling, check for mental clutter. What messages are playing in your head? How are you viewing your reality? Like attracts like. Negative beliefs, self-talk and perspectives attract more of the same.

Bring that clutter to light. Notice it. Don’t judge it. Internal clutter is a choice. But, you must first notice it and its effect on your feelings, behavior and view of your life and the world. Bring mental clutter to light and you’ll be on your way to a better life. Awareness first. You cannot expel energies you haven’t identified. It may not be pleasant process. But, it’s a step in the direction of positive change.