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Get Unstuck: Exercise Works!

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Yoga helped me get unstuck!

I’ve been stuck in grief and low-grade depression since the death of my mother in July. It’s been very hard to muster the enthusiasm needed to promote my business. I knew that losing Mom after 5 years of coordinating her care as Alzheimer’s claimed her mind would derail me. But, I thought after a month or two I would be back on track. Not so. Add in normal fall seasonal affective disorder, and I have been moving at a glacial pace.

For many years I have walked regularly and done sit ups, push ups, and leg lifts at night before going to bed — minimal exercise. In an attempt to build strength and energy, Bob and I joined American Family Fitness, a gym near our home, 

Going to a gym has never been easy for my introverted self. But this time I approached the challenge with a new perspective. Instead of thinking of the gym as a place where I would demonstrate how out of shape I am and how much better others are, I viewed it as a place to reclaim my strength, my center, my confidence and feelings of well-being.

I started with a yoga class and an easy workout on machines. As expected, I was wobbly during yoga poses and my muscles screamed and let me know I had been neglecting them. I got breathless on the treadmill. However, almost immediately I felt better. It was as if some vital life force in me began moving again. Optimism returned. Enthusiasm returned. And, with those good feelings came a desire to write this blog, to get to work.

Keys to making this gym experience different than others:

  • I went in with no expectations for a high level of performance.
  • I viewed going to the gym as self-care and an activity to help me feel better.
  • I took relatively easy, meditative classes and started slow on the machines instead of pushing myself in high intensity classes and workouts.
  • I chose the kinds of exercise I like to do.
  • I viewed just showing up at the gym as a success.

The payoff: I’m moving again, feeling better, and being more productive!

3 Tips to a Happy New Year

Happy New Year 2014 message greeting written on heart shape blackboard against a pink background.The last day of 2013. What a perfect time to review the last year and set your intentions for the new year! It’s an opportunity make some decisions and internal commitments about what you want to accomplish and experience in the new year in your personal and/or professional life. Does considering that type of thinking and planning send you into overwhelm? Here are three suggestions to help you find your way.

  • Choose a guiding theme or message for the year. This year my guiding them is, “feed your heart.” Recently while being coached I came to the realization that when I feed my heart I have fun, feel most alive, and experience joy. Last year was so heavy with family obligations and hard work that I really long for more fun and joy in the coming year. Feeding my heart with experiences of deep connection, creating beauty, spending time in nature, spending time with dogs, and enjoying music is the way for me to get that. 
  • Choose an area for personal or professional growth and learning. One of the best ways to feel alive and excited about life is to be engaged in learning something new, particularly something that is in alignment with your values, needs and your guiding theme. My areas of learning and growth for 2014 will be in further developing my coaching skills and in some type of art endeavor. 
  • Make a decision to get unstuck in at least one area of your life and make it so. Perhaps you’re stuck in a pattern of overeating when stressed. Perhaps your physical environment is cluttered and keeps you stuck in indecision and in an inability to take action on your own behalf. For years my automatic has been work, work, work. My drug of choice is work. I’ve been somewhat clueless and mostly unsuccessful in efforts to play, lighten up and have fun. Because I have no been successful at achieving more balance between work and fun/play on my own, I’m seeking support from a coach specifically to address my own self-care.  Our goal is to increase my awareness about the nature of my challenge and about how to shift from being a compulsive doer to being a more balanced, playful person. 

Following through on any one of the above steps could be challenging. How will you keep them in the forefront of your mind as you drift back into the current of daily life post holidays?

Partnering with a coach is a great way to identify your goals for 2014, to keep them in your awareness, and make steady progress to accomplish them. If you want 2014 to be your best year yet, I hope you’ll call me to discuss the possibility of working with me as your coach (804-730-4991). I’m offering a $50 discount off three 30 minute micro-coaching sessions until January 31 ($150 reduced to $100). Consider coaching to launch yourself into the new year with intention and purpose.